Reflection Tools
These reflection tools are designed to help you slow down, notice what is happening within you and around you, and become more intentional about how you participate in relationship. They are not assessments you pass or fail. They are invitations to notice, reflect, and make choices that feel meaningful to you. Return to them as often as you like. Your responses may change as your relationships, circumstances, and awareness change.
Life Wheel
The Life Wheel offers a simple way to pause and notice the different areas of your life and where your attention is going. Use it to step back from the day-to-day and consider what feels present, what may be asking for your attention, and where you might want to create greater alignment.
The Life Wheel can help you:
See your life as a whole.
Notice where you are feeling balanced or stretched.
Identify areas that may be asking for attention.
Clarify where you want to focus your energy.
Create a starting point for reflection and intentional choice.
The Nine Relational Patterns Continuum
The Nine Relational Patterns Continuum offers a way to recognize familiar patterns in communication and notice where you are along a spectrum of awareness and practice. Each pattern moves from an experience that may happen outside of our awareness toward greater awareness, curiosity, intention, and integration. The continuum is not a ranking or a measure of how well you communicate. It is a way to recognize what is happening and consider what choice may be available.
The Continuum can help you:
Recognize patterns that may be influencing your communication.
Notice when a familiar response is happening automatically.
Identify where awareness is creating new choices.
Consider what one small step might be possible.
Develop language for talking about patterns with yourself and others.
Before the Conversation Reflection
The Before the Conversation Reflection gives you space to pause before entering an important conversation. It invites you to notice what you are bringing with you, including your thoughts, feelings, assumptions, intentions, and the ways you may be choosing to show up. It also helps you consider what you hope becomes possible through the conversation.
The Before Reflection can help you:
Arrive with greater awareness.
Notice what you are carrying into the conversation.
Clarify your conversation intentions.
Identify patterns you may want to pay attention to.
Consider how you want to participate.
Create a little space between preparation and reaction.
After the Conversation
The After the Conversation Reflection gives you a place to pause and learn from what happened. Rather than deciding whether the conversation went well or poorly, it invites you to notice your experience, what you learned, what you contributed, and what you might want to carry forward.
The After Reflection can help you:
Notice what happened within you during the conversation.
Recognize what you learned about yourself and the other person.
Identify moments of connection, tension, clarity, or uncertainty.
Notice patterns that emerged.
Reflect on the choices you made.
Consider what you want to practice or carry into future conversations.